You know what it's like. The devastation and sadness you can feel in the last days of a dying relationship. The happy memories relegated to the distant past. Your relationship over. Have you considered another possibility? It doesn't have to be this way....
What if you could turn back time? Go back to the days where you were each others soul mate? Recapture those moments of passion and laughter and fun which lead you to fall in love in the first place. .
Do You Really Want To Get Back Together?
Only you can decide. But here are a few simple questions to ask yourself that might guide your thinking: Did you play a role in it not working out? If so what was your contribution? Do you notice any patterns in your relationship situations and interactions? If so, were these patterns helping your relationship or hindering it?
After considering these questions, let's assume you want to give your relationship another chance. Well, you are going to have to know exactly what to say and what to do. Here are three things to keep in mind immediately after you break up
1. Whatever you do, DON'T call up or text 100 times a day pleading and begging to get back. It doesn't work, in fact it pushes your ex further away. It just makes them feel guilty and resentful. Likewise, don't ring up your partner's family and friends. You will only alienate yourself further.
2. It may seem counter intuitive, but less contact is MUCH better in the early stages...
Why?
Because your ex has to miss you first. They are going to realise that there is no one to share stuff with. This desire will become stronger and when they ring you, what will they find?? An embittered, desparate wreck of their former partner, or someone who has actually refelcted on the causes of the break up and has managed to get it together.
A word of advice: this no contact phase will probably be one of the hardest periods in your life, BUT you can get through it by following strategies to minimise the emotional pain and depression. And yes. It's possible to feel better in minutes!.
3. When your ex finally does ring you it will more than likely be for some fabricated reason, DON'T take it as an opportunity to emotionally dump on them. Listen respectfully and politely, answer calmly and then end the call.
Never give up and become discouraged if you have decided to give it another go. Even seemingly unreconcilable differences can be overcome when the intention is strong.
What if you knew exactly what to do and what to say to win back your lover, or at least create the circumstances for a second chance? Well now you can with The Magic Of Making Up
What if you could turn back time? Go back to the days where you were each others soul mate? Recapture those moments of passion and laughter and fun which lead you to fall in love in the first place. .
Do You Really Want To Get Back Together?
Only you can decide. But here are a few simple questions to ask yourself that might guide your thinking: Did you play a role in it not working out? If so what was your contribution? Do you notice any patterns in your relationship situations and interactions? If so, were these patterns helping your relationship or hindering it?
After considering these questions, let's assume you want to give your relationship another chance. Well, you are going to have to know exactly what to say and what to do. Here are three things to keep in mind immediately after you break up
1. Whatever you do, DON'T call up or text 100 times a day pleading and begging to get back. It doesn't work, in fact it pushes your ex further away. It just makes them feel guilty and resentful. Likewise, don't ring up your partner's family and friends. You will only alienate yourself further.
2. It may seem counter intuitive, but less contact is MUCH better in the early stages...
Why?
Because your ex has to miss you first. They are going to realise that there is no one to share stuff with. This desire will become stronger and when they ring you, what will they find?? An embittered, desparate wreck of their former partner, or someone who has actually refelcted on the causes of the break up and has managed to get it together.
A word of advice: this no contact phase will probably be one of the hardest periods in your life, BUT you can get through it by following strategies to minimise the emotional pain and depression. And yes. It's possible to feel better in minutes!.
3. When your ex finally does ring you it will more than likely be for some fabricated reason, DON'T take it as an opportunity to emotionally dump on them. Listen respectfully and politely, answer calmly and then end the call.
Never give up and become discouraged if you have decided to give it another go. Even seemingly unreconcilable differences can be overcome when the intention is strong.
What if you knew exactly what to do and what to say to win back your lover, or at least create the circumstances for a second chance? Well now you can with The Magic Of Making Up
